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PAUSE: Accepting Dementia and Still Have a Good Time

The cat was out of the bag. Finally, mom divulged the secret diagnosis, Corticobasal Degeneration, after it was confirmed by her specialists and doctors. What now?

Acceptance: the process of being received as suitable; to embrace, to welcome

In the beginning, I could only think that mom would not be here long, "so what am I going to do?" Doctors were not sure how long she could survive the progression of the disease; but, they prescribed medications slowing things down. This idea burdened me time and time again. Whatever this is, it could not be reversed.

The first time I visited mom after the diagnosis, I felt like a stranger. I did not know what to say. I felt asking her, "how are you doing", was rude? Things were socially awkward because she wasn't sharing jokes and laughing much, anymore.

I had to change my mindset focusing on her list of 'things to do' and hobbies relieving both our minds of the most obvious. She liked to walk. Suspense and thriller movies were her favorite past time. She enjoyed wings with fried rice. And, she loved to read her bible and attend church. Often, she would walk through the house at 2 a.m. in the morning chanting prayers. I cannot forget Saturday morning, Soul Train! Sometimes, we hung out giving my grandmother a break. She definitely needed time for herself.

I cherished every moment, even taking a road trip, between Georgia and Texas sightseeing. We stayed up late nights watching movies and eating popcorn in our pajamas; while drinking red kool-aid. She and her granddaughter sang loudly through the walls to each other until they both tired themselves out.

7 Reasons It's Important To Accept Alzheimer's/Dementia Diagnosis

  1. Provides immediate support to the person living with Alzheimer's/Dementia

  2. The caregiver seeks support from trusted family and friends.

  3. Effective communication allows all parties to re-evaluate tasks and routines.

  4. If accommodations are necessary, a plan of action can be executed.

  5. Shift priorities

  6. Seek resources, such as, social networks, support groups, and activity centers for positive interactions and building relationships

  7. Family matters to discuss life after...wills, family lawyer, legal documents, bank information, etc.

It is difficult to watch the transformation of loved ones diagnosed with Alzheimer's/Dementia. It is sometimes equally difficult caring for a loved one diagnosed with Alzheimer's/Dementia. Letting go of fear while living out a loved one's dreams requires support from family and friends. Sure, that is easier said than done!

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